Sunday, July 18, 2021
07/18/21-I found out today through a chance conversation with strangers at work about Tom Jr's passing. what can I say about a young man who I only really knew as a child through his parents Tom and Lori. I remember him was a young boy full of energy and the promise that all children carry with them, regretfully we lost touch with Tom and Lori and their children as can sometimes happen in life. although we lost touch they were never far from me and my wife's heart. to his wife and children I am so very sorry for the loss you have experienced and the hole that it leaves in your lives. even though we have never met I can't help but to shed tears for your loss even as I write this. all I can offer you are my hopes thoughts and prayers that you can find the answers all of you are seeking to help you through your grief. it is a difficult search. to Tom and Lori, I can't seem to find the words I want to say to express to you how badly I feel for your loss, no parents should ever have to lose a child. I want you both to know that I am so glad Jayma introduced you two into my life and that I regret letting our friendship slide all these years. I also want to say that I'm sorry with all of my heart for not being the godparents that we should have been all these years, I apologize with all of my heart and soul. I am a man who does not have a lot to offer these days but I want you all, Tom, Laurie and Tom Jr's family, to know that the grief of your loss reaches far beyond your family circle. all that I really have to offer during this time is friendship, and ear that's willing to listen, a shoulder you can cry on and another heart to share your grief with. to Tom senior and Lori I will always consider you guys my friends and I want you to know you can call me anytime you need to (315)275-4431or stop by my house, I still live at the same place. to Tom Jr's wife and family I wish there was some kind of magic that could help you with your grief but I know there is not. I am not much of a religious man but I will be praying for you and your family, and know that there is one more heart out here sharing your grief.Doug Gustavson
